In today’s dating scene, things like situationships, slow burns, and endless talking stages have made commitment feel optional. And sometimes, love stories drag on for years without clear endings, labels get fuzzy, and timelines stretch forever. But Sima Tapariaโbetter known as Sima Aunty from Netflix’s show ‘Indian Matchmaking’โisn’t here for it. The straight-talking marriage consultant is calling out the waste of time in relationships that go nowhere, and her fresh comments are stirring up the internet.Sima Aunty keeps it real: If you’re not sure after a few months, why stick around? Romance without a plan isn’t dreamyโit’s just inefficient. Her old-school wisdom is clashing with modern vibes, and honestly, it’s got people talking.
The viral “Three-year question”
It all blew up in a recent BBC Asian Network video where Sima Aunty roasted Western dating habits. She pointed out how people date for one, two, or even three years, only to say, “Nah, this isn’t it.” Her question? “Then why did they meet for three years?”To her, time is too precious to gamble away. If marriage is the endgame (and for her clients, it always is), you shouldn’t need years to figure out the basics. No endless testing the watersโjust decide and move forward. It’s a wake-up call in an era where “keeping options open” often means staying stuck.
Sima Aunty’s simple matchmaking rule
Sima Aunty’s method is all structure and speed. In India, she gives couples just two or three months: “Please give me a yes or a no. That’s all.” That short window is plenty to check the big stuffโfamily fit, shared values, lifestyle match, and real long-term goals. Sparks and chemistry? Those can happen later. It’s like a strategic checklist, not waiting for Cupid to strike randomly.She’s famous for this on the show, pushing clients to compromise and adjust rather than chase perfection. No one gets 100%โaim for 60-70% and build from there. Her fans love the clarity; critics call it too cold. But in a world of flaky dating apps, her approach feels refreshingly decisive.Pros of Her Way: Cuts through indecision, saves heartbreak, and focuses on practical compatibility. Families stay involved early, reducing surprises.Cons: Feels rushed for deep emotional bonds; ignores cultural shifts where love grows slowly. Not everyone wants marriage first.What’s your dating timeline sweet spotโmonths or years? Share in the comments!